Sometimes the world can get in our head and tell us how to think and feel. We might not even be able to tell that it isn’t our voice we’re hearing. It’s normal to have ideas that were taught to us when we were young or as we grew up, but that doesn’t mean that what you’re hearing is actually what you believe. I’ve heard it said that the first thought you think is probably how you were trained by family and society, but the second thought is how you really feel. We’re responsible for that second thought.
It’s important for us to slow down and really think through what we believe and the standards we hold for ourselves (and others), especially if we’re going through a transition. We don’t have to be right all the time, and we don’t have to do it perfectly, as if that were even possible. What we do need to do, though, is make sure that the transition in front of us is 1) one we want, and 2) for our own good.
Whether you want the transition or not, slow down and ask yourself why it is you do or don’t. It might seem like if you don’t want to change something, that automatically means it’s a bad idea, but is that true, or is that just because your mother told you it was? If it seems like a great experience, is that because you feel it in your soul, or because you just don’t know what else to change, but something has to?
Please answer the following questions. Really sit with them and think them through:
Imagine a transition you’ve had recently or are about to go through, what’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you think about it?
Now take a breath and think about it again, what’s the second thing you think about it? Take that thought and feel it in your body. Write what you find out below.